Dear Friends
Its a well known truth that as we all watch porn sometime in our life. It's not a wrong thing to do. No, absolutely not. Although in our country, we keep it hidden in some special folders in our mobiles or PCs, but we do have it. Like all female's WhatsApp groups share their make up, bags or the reviews of the spas or parlors they have visited. Or they have a big collection of jokes on saas bahu or husbands because of some random aunts sending them all the time - 'Tera time ayega'. After marriage, they are struck in family groups and responding to all in-laws becomes all the more important than any thing else in life.
The WhatsApp groups of males are different. They don't waste their time on such things. Instead, they believe in keeping each other 'HAPPY'. Even if some have no interest in sharing or receiving these videos, they have to be a part of those groups because of friends. As I said, they keep each other happy.
And 'No', this doesn't at all means that girls don't watch porn. They will ask their boyfriends to share or watch it secretly on You Tube or other websites. But could not share on their friend's group. Ah, that's a different story. We will discuss about it someday else.
With all this, what I am trying to say is Everyone watches it for different reasons. Even some people gets their first sex education from porn. And the problem begin when you start believing that this is all real.
No, it's not.
This is only for entertainment. They do all kind of different things, even the unimaginable one's to draw more viewership around the world.
Here are the 9 things which are shown in porn but are not even close to reality:
1. Perfect body -
Porn creates an illusion of perfect body image. And it is true for both boys and girls. It shows that a man should be tall and muscular. Whereas, a girl should be perfect 36-32-36. Big boobs and big bumps are the only good things in world.
Girls and guys keep looking for that perfect body as they think, that this kind of body can only guarantee full fun and satisfaction.
But wait. Its not a truth.
Don't take so much load on yourself. Don't keep expectations from your partner to be like that porn star you liked the most. You may get more fun by just having the right approach or a right partner with interesting mindset.
Important Fact - Talk to your partner about your needs and wishes and work together in getting them fulfilled.
2. More the better -
In porn, it is shown that those porn stars are performing for half an hour or one hour. This is not always possible in real life. The actual timing of people can be anything from 2 minutes to max of 30 minutes. Also, if you are doing it for the first time with someone, you might finish in just 30 seconds.
Don't take pressure dear. Someone might go on and on, but that might bore you and you would be like "Yaar bas bhi kar". Believe me, there are people whose partners cry out for getting it in excess. So timing could not decide the enjoyment. All have their own capabilities. Don't be sad or feel bad that your partner can't do it. Porn stars take medicines to show that timing and work for longer durations.
Important Fact - If you really want good normal timing, exercise and be fit. Fit partner is Hit partner .
3. Blow him off -
Blows jobs are highly rated because of porn movies.
Do it. Give and take. Not an issue. Some people just love it.
But why make such an issue on whether she swallows or not? How does that make YOU happy? Or even effect you?
Actually guys, there is nothing special in swallowing. Understand, that not everyone will do it. Although it is alright to swallow but there are people who are allergic to it, known as human seminal plasma hypersensitivity (HSP). So do not make it a prestige issue. Not all your girlfriends will do it.
Important Fact - Semen of most men is smelly and very bitter. Why not try it yourself guys and see if you can taste it first?
4. Hairless body -
Porn shows all those hairless bodies. (Some porn stars are even bald too. LOL)
I don't know their problem with the hair but no girls, not all boys like hairless you. Girls go in for hair removal creams, razors or Brazilian wax. They create so much pressure in their mind that they go for waxing every time they meet their guys.
And many guys have also started waxing their chest. (P.S. Instead shave your beards, they disturb while kissing.) C'mmon yaar, Anil Kapoor and Akshay Kumar also have chest hairs but still just look at them.. They look so hot, so sexy, so kissable, so.... Ok, Sorry. I was diverting from the topic.
But seriously you can not have such smooth skins all the time. They put all kind of oils to make their bodies shine on the cameras.
Movies and ads always tell girls that they need to be smooth and shiny every where all the time to be liked by others. That is not true. It is natural to have darker private parts than the rest of the body. It is normal to have unwaxed body without facials sometimes. Let him see the real you.
Important Fact - You know, our desi men like to watch desi porn more. Desi girls with normal bodies are also famous.
5. Can you do reverse cowgirl?-
Porn shows too many ridiculous and adventurous positions of sex. And to perform them, the porn stars do heavy exercises day and night, because this is the only thing they have to do. If they won't look good or do something new, are you even going to watch them? That's their job and you have other jobs to do too. They might be doing positions that are really uncomfortable. But don't do them just for the sake of it. I am sure you don't want to walk weirdly to work, the next day!!
It's okay if you wanna try. Try it. But don't take pressure that if that porn star can do it, then you should also do it. Just be comfortable, natural and enjoy the act. If mind is under pressure, you can never enjoy it.
And the guys as well as gals, don't pressurize your partners for anything they don't feel comfortable doing.
Important Fact - After a period of time, as you start becoming comfortable with sex and with your partner, you are able to do much more enjoyable things together which are not even shown in porn movies.
6. Are you loud? -
In porn movies, girls as well as guys make out so many sounds. All that moaning creates so much imagination in the mind of the viewer. The viewer starts visualizing everything and can actually have an orgasm with those sounds.
But that is what they are meant to do.
In reality, it's not necessary that your partner will groan on every thing you do. And it's also not necessary that if the partner is not groaning then there is any problem with you or the person is not enjoying.
Especially with our joint families, people learn how not to groan.
Important Fact - Don't fake those sounds. Anyone can tell a difference between a natural groan and the fake one.
7. What's your Size? -
The most important question in every one's mind is - Does the size really matters?
Well, yes for some and no for some. All have their own choices.
But the kind of sizes shown in porn movies are too big to be natural. But as I said earlier, that is their job. Like you add-on to your qualifications for getting better jobs, they add-on to their assets through cosmetic surgeries.
The natural sizes are normal and ensure orgasms too.
Important Fact - 1. Please don't judge the size of a man's penis by his height.
2. Don't judge a women's sex drive by her clothes or make-up.
8. Condoms -
Porn shows porn stars performing without condoms. This creates an illusion in the mind of youngsters that it might be related with the enjoyment levels.
No, its not. They actually use lots of other safety measures which are not shown in those videos. Because their job is not to give sex education but only some enjoyment to get more viewership from around the world.
In reality, if you are having sex often with newly found partners then they would not tell you about their infections. And you might end up getting sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). And girls, there is always the risk of pregnancy. And no, don't take those pills, it creates problems when you actually want pregnancy.
Important Fact - Always keep a stock, you might get lucky at anytime.
9. Threesome r orgy -
Orgies and threesome are usually shown in porn movies where they swap their partners and have group sex - 2 men, 1 woman or 4 men, 4 women changing partners or 4 women, 1 man. This has got very much famous in the west where people organize orgies at their homes.
Some people enjoy it here in India too, although hidden behind curtains. But it is not necessary that you have to do it too.
Of course try if your partner is also comfortable with it, but don't force them into it. And don't try the complete strangers until you have collected some information about them or you may be looted. Also, there are chances of getting STDs or AIDS if it is unprotected sex.
Just because some people enjoy threesome doesn't mean that it can give you some special orgasm. Some people just do it because they want to try it once and see how it feel. May be your partner can give you all the fun all alone and you can have the best orgasm in the world.
Important Fact - Threesome, Twosome, Foursome, have some of all
But don't forget the health and love of your sweetheart...
Hope you find the article useful.
Please live in reality and films are far off from reality. Sex is all about having fun and enjoyment. Don't take pressure of your performance or what the other person will think about you? If they make decision about you based on sex, then there is no love between you.
Find the person who loves you, and good sex will follow.
Enjoy. May you all have a wonderful sex life. Happy Weekend.
Do let me know your thoughts on the above topic, in the comments below.
